Five Thoughts to Help You Get Okay With Not Being Okay

2. In Order for Us to Change, We Have to Leave Something Behind. As Semisonic so famously stated in their song Closing Time, “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.” Something new beginning means something old is ending, and letting go of this something old can mean a time of grief. If you’re not okay with the change in this moment, stop and consider, is this feeling one of grief? And can you give yourself a little grace to get through it?   3. Fear is Fair in These Moments. Maybe you aren’t grieving the loss of something per say, but the future, the thing that you are moving towards, is unclear and unknown. The ‘what if’ scenarios are playing over and over in your head, and some of them have dark outcomes. If what you’re feeling in this time of transition is trepidation, uncertainty, anxiety about a lack of details, that, too, is okay. It is a natural part of the transition process.   4. Transition is a Journey. It’s not a switch from one step to another. It’s not a quick jump. It’s a process. It’s a journey that begins with identifying what’s going to change, letting go of where you were, grieving that loss, dealing with the uncertainty as you deal with the future, working to create new habits, patterns, or skills, and then, eventually, arriving in a state that’s comfortable.   5. There Are Those Who Can Help You. You are in a period of transition, you may feel lonely or alone, but I assure you, you are not alone. This is one of those places where friendships are important: Collegial relationships with those you work with; small groups within your neighborhood, gym or PTO; fellowships and networks within your community or your place of worship; and even a connection to a higher power.